Obviously didn't want to have to talk to me or God forbid TOUCH me to wake me up! So I don't really understand why he didn't set the alarm then. He'll probably call her in a bit to "see if I'm up".
That's your interpretation of your H's actions and may or may not actually be correct. Your last sentence in the quote is an attempt to predict what will happen in the future, and again you may or may not be correct. Just pointing out that doing this sort of stuff doesn't have a positive pay off, but it sure does have a negative one.
Last night before the humiliation
Well, again, you had stormed off earlier, and then there you are asking him to lay next to you, and though I have no idea what his thoughts were, he asks you whether you were asking him to lay next to so as to cuddle, and you had in mind making love, and instead of answering his question directly or taking the initiative to show what's on your mind, you turned defensive and said, "Forget it!" because he didn't read your mind.
I can tell you that, as a guy, what would've been going through my mind that would've made me ask, "you mean to cuddle?" would be that I'm not sure if you want to ML or just cuddle, and if I initiate making love, you might get pissed off again, and I'm trying to avoid that. So really I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't. Now I can't say that's what your H was thinking... but he asked for clarification of your intent, and there's a reason he asked, whatever that reason was, and you expected him to just know what you wanted.
Now, rather than now labeling the episode as "the humiliation", and having some misery associated with it, wouldn't it be far better to drop that label and look at the dynamics of your interactions and examine how they could've been bettered - without placing the responsibility or blame for that in H's court in doing so - so that the next time around the situation is improved?
