Great! I was told that self esteem, self love and self worth have all one thing in common. The word "self", and that means these are qualities you give to yourself. Hope that helps.
I'm just having such a hard time with him telling me he won't give up the OW just yet... I asked him if he's talked to OW and he said no, then changed his answer to yes, 2 times.
OK. He's going to do what he's going to do. Accept that. Here's where having NO expectations and starting to detach come in useful to help you handle the situation. When you have zero expectations, he can't disappoint you. It won't matter if he changes the answers you expect to hear, because you won't expect anything. AND if something good happens, you can only be delighted.
Also, you're going to back off. No pressure on him, no demands. You want to become his ally, not his adversary. That brings his guard down, you see. In time, he won't be defensive around you, if he's been acting defensive.
and things seemed to be going well.
Things are not always as they appear. And sometimes things may look bad, but they're not.
I think I thought I needed a "progression check" to see if we were both on the same page. Obviously not.
Expectations again.
I called what he was doing with me "pretending" and that made him mad.
OK. Don't say that to him anymore, ha ha ha. But you can tell us how you really feel.
I do thank you for your words of encouragement.
Believe it or not, it's by writing my posts and the same thoughts and thinking on other's situations actually helps me focus on answers to my own. I get reminded of points I'm overlooking and it keeps me well fed on this stuff. I need it too, you know.
I promise, I'm trying!! Today is a new day. Not looking back, only forward.
Good attitude. You're on your way if you keep that up. They say, "no 'trying'... Do it!" Hope you do, but of course, I have no expectations.
