This whole process takes time and patience, lots of patience. It took time for your M to get to this point and will take time to work it out and heal.
Doing things that will hurt you (like snooping) make it hard to keep DBing successfully. I know, I went down that road. It will affect you and that will affect how you react and treat H. Those actions will push him away. If you look at the bill, see what you don't want to see, you will have a reaction and it will hurt your efforts. When the urge to look comes, do something else (leave if you have to). Focus on you and GAL and have no expectations.
For me, I finally accepted that I can't control my H. He will stop talking to ow when he chooses. I have no control over that. I only have control over me and my kids. I have put most of my energy and time into me and the kids. I want to be someone that he is attracted to again. I want him to want to commit to our M. If that is what I want I can have no expectations and have to DB. Time and patience will tell if it works or not.
