Bustingonline, snooping is a terrible way to live. Only you can prevent yourself from hurting yourself. Listen to Smith07.
So if I back off and don't bring it up, is he just viewing this as a "have your cake and eat it too" situation? I just don't know what it will take for me to get the negatives out of my head.
Soccermom, if you 1. back off R talk and 2. GAL and 3. detach and 4. practice a loving indifference, treating H like a good friend rather than as H, he most likely will not view this as license to cakewalk. He may cakewalk, but your new behaviors could certainly cause him to wonder what's happening with you and to reflect more on you. Keeping pressure on him keeps his mind focused on not wanting to be in the relationship. Take that pressure away and his mind is freed to reflect on other things, like you.
