I have to say my sitch sounds a lot like yours. I'm so torn by acting in a way that will want my H to stay, and not asking for info about talk with the OW. He's said 3 times now he won't talk to her anymore and has failed 3 times. I'm fairly certain it's an EA, nothing more. We are going to counseling together and alone and I felt like it was a step in the right direction. I want so much to see the "baby steps" yet know in the back of my mind, he's going to call her and I'll look like the fool again. I guess I'm still waiting for the speech from H saying he's so sorry about the pain he's caused. Not gotten anything like that. If I don't initiate talks about R, NO ONE will! So if I back off and don't bring it up, is he just viewing this as a "have your cake and eat it too" situation? I just don't know what it will take for me to get the negatives out of my head. Thanks for listening to my rant.
