Slowly, thanks for checking in. I do a lot of lurking but don't always get around to posting.
Things are ok here. We had our 10th anniversary this past weekend and went away for a few days with friends. In the past I would have been disappointed that we didn't go away for a romantic weekend just the two of us. But my H is not that kind of a guy. He wanted to play golf with his buddy and for me to hang with his buddy's wife. They are great friends of ours so this really wasn't a big deal. In fact, we had a great time.
Instead of him getting bored halfway through the vacation and me feeling awkward because he's bored, we just did what we wanted and it was great.
I gave him a card but he wouldn't open it cuz he didn't get me one. He said he wanted to get me something first. Well, that was Sunday (two days after our anniversary) and I'm still waiting. But this morning I reminded myself of that "no expections" rule. Exchanging cards is not important to him (nor to most men). I can live with that, but he could at least read mine! He doesn't understand that I didn't give him a card to get one back. He always feels he has to reciprocate and he gets stressed if he thinks he isn't doing it just right.
I just left the card on his nightstand and I won't say anything more about it. It might be kinda fun to see how long it takes him to open it!
Anyway, on a scale of one to ten, I'd say we are at about 7-1/2 right now. Our next big challenge will be the holidays--he hates them, I love them.
I will say that with time I have noticed I can relax more and I'm having an easier time with trusting him. I'm not so prone to anxiety attacks if I don't hear from him right after work. I've got other stuff to do.
Seems things are going pretty well for you too. Take care!
