I'm feeling a backslide coming on so I'm hoping for a little help here. The last couple of days I have felt that my H and I are disconnected. Yesterday morning I left home first while he was still in the shower so I didn't see him before work and didn't talk to him again until about 10:30 last night when he called to tell me he was on his way to visit a friend after spending the afternoon playing golf. It was his day off so I wasn't really expecting much, but I felt really off that I hadn't talked to him all day. He had lots to say when he came home--very happy with his golf game and proud of himself. I tried to validate and express my happiness for him but it was a little difficult at 1:30 a.m. I was as enthusiastic as I could be at that hour.
I have been trying to leave him alone in the morning cuz he is grumpy in the a.m. He likes his sleep time, so I have been leaving without saying good bye or kissing him so he doesn't have to wake up. But this also leaves me feeling disconnected, so this morning I asked for a kiss and he was grumpy about it.
He likes to have me save his dinner for when he gets home and he likes me to keep his laundry done and just be there when he gets home--I know these are things that make him feel valued by me and he appreciates it. And I don't mind this, but today I feel like I'm not getting anything in return. I'm not getting my love language spoken to me. I want to feel valued too--how can I get my needs met, physical touch, appreciation. What am I missing here? I want to talk to him about it, but he hates that. I don't know what to do
