Hi Slowly and HKat--thanks for stopping by--I appreciate your comments!

Well, yesterday I finally had to get my question answered. I've been thinking about it for a few weeks now and trying to ask in a way that isn't accusatory or defensive. But I really needed to know why he wouldn't put his ring on. So last night I just asked, "why don't you wear your ring?" Well he kinda laughed and said he tried but he has gained a little weight and he couldn't get it all the way on and was afraid he'd not be able to get it off. He said he'd be glad to give me a demonstration I said I believed him and was just curious.

Even though I probably should have just left it alone, getting an answer to this really lifted some weight off of me. It was one thing that just kept hanging that I couldn't seem to let go of. His actions would never indicate that he didn't want to wear it, so that just made me more curious.

Even though I couldn't let this one go, I think I did ok. I feel that I brought it up without the usual beating around the bush and adding commentary and analyzing conversation. And he didn't seem to mind giving me an answer.