Journaling: Had a little argument over money last night, but I actually listened, understood his point and we resolved it.
The one that is really making me say WOW happened this morning. I had my oil changed yesterday and when H got home he saw it was leaking on the garage floor. Well I got it changed at his shop so he was annoyed. When he told me about it I first thought he was joking, but he wasn't. Instead of asking him what he was going to do or what I should do about it, I just sat and waited. I could see he was processing the info and couldn't talk about it at the moment. He made a couple of out loud suggestions and then said he'd look at it in the morning. I just smiled and listened. This morning it turns out the filter wasn't on right, so he crawled under and fixed it and told me to go back to the shop today to have them look at it and top it off. I thanked him a couple of times and he said "your're welcome". But here is the WOW part: as I was walking out the door to go to work, he said "sorry". I was so stunned I couldn't even respond. I was halfway out the door and just kept going. I'm sorry now that I didn't say anything but he NEVER apologizes for anything. He is usually defensive and I think it is because I would usually go into attack mode and not give him time to process and come up with a solution. WOW!
