What timing! I'm rarely here and would hardly say that I lurk. I typically just read the headlines, get depressed, then go look for new music on the iTunes music store to cheer myself back up. I'm glad to see you are still alive not wallowing in some drunken stupor in a crackhouse somewhere with a 350 lb. hooker named Lilli (with an 'I').
I'm sorry things aren't outstandingly better my W and I (well, I really mean my W) seem to slide back into old ways and like you, I'm just more assertive which makes things generally better. It's just tiring because you have to come to the realization that, when the relationship is perfect in every other department, your partner still might not relate to you the way you want to be related to because that's "just who they are"....period. I've quit going to the C because she started irritating me and I figured a few thousand on a family ski trip would be money-better-spent than more therapy for me. Sh!t, what I've learned over the past 6 months is that people really don't change at all, why should I expect my W to change when it seems almost impossible for me to change. So I figure, what the hell...I'll just do what I want now..indulge in my own desires (like 'taking her' in the kitchen the other day ;-) ). It seems to come down to having "guts".
I hope I'm not bumming anyone out....things are better in a lot of ways. I no longer get angry when I see a Cialis commercial and my anxiety and anger is almost completely gone. We don't talk about this stuff anymore...we just live from day to day and talk from the "I" want/like/need/etc. It's seems to be pretty good way to live and also has helped me even more at the office.
Anyway, I just thought I'd say hi.
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