I don't use the Bible with my wife at all. All I am saying is that I have read parts of it related to marriage, and it does tell us how things are "supposed" to work. Basically what the Bible says it that if I meet her needs, then she will have the ability to meet mine. She will have the ability to "Desire" me.
Do I want all out passion, yes. After reading "Passionate Marriage", i guess that my idea of success actually increased. So I now see that their are 3 type of marriage, there is a passionate marriage, there are failed marriages, and there is divorce. So you can actually be married and still have a failed marriage, just like my father-in-law and mother-in-law. They have been married 50 years, and have not slept together for 45 years, are still married, and I consider their marriage to be a HUGE failure.
