I think he did understand my concern. He was I guess you could say defending the fact that he didn't initiate this conversation. He said I didn't say I could have her as in sex just dating.
I talked with my daughter. She said she asked him have you ever cheated on mom. He said no I have never have. He told her even though there has been girls that flirted at work he has never cheated once. He said there is even a girl at work who is 20 that flirts. People there keep telling me I could have her if I wanted to. But I don't.
I asked daughter what did you think he meant by have. She said to date her. And she said beside I told him you would be old enough to be a 20 year olds father. He said well thanks. Then he told her I know.
She said he seemed concerned that I was going out more. Like he was thinking there may be someone else I am dating or something. So she asked mom your not dating anyone are you. I said no. Then she was like good.
I still think he used bad judgement and I think he is a bad place right now. To me I see signs that he is depressed. In my heart I feel he wouldn't hurt our daughter for the world.They have always been very open as far as talking. She is the kind of kid that is very observant and doesn't hold back in her opinion about anything. In a way I think she is trying to be match maker. She doesn't want us to split up and has been very vocal about it. She has told us both if we separate she will never accept anyone else. She will be angry and retaliate.
