I've been a little busy, kind of missed your thread for a while, but I just wanted to jump in here to echo what JandJ and Nopkins has said.
In addition to the convo with your daughter (which is a very big red flag), these also jumped out at me:
Quote: Well, I did confront him and it led to a huge blow up. He said he only looked at this site to see if I was watching what he was doing on the web. Seems like a weird and lame excuse. My husband doesn't like to be wrong about anything. So therefore if he has done something he often will lie right to my face. He tries to turn the tables onto me and pout me to blame for everything in our marriage.
Like paying bills he claims he don't like the way I do it. So I told him by all means take it over. Then he will have an excuse for that. Our kid's are in school and he wanted me to work. So I got a job and he complains about that. It's not enough hours, not enough pay. Well, I was out of the work force for a long time raising our children. I have to start somewhere and gain experience and a work history again. Mean time I can look for something better. But it's a start and I was proud of myself. But he puts me down.
DO take Nopkins advice, and get some profesional help - for yourself. Even if your H would agree to go, I really suggest you go yourself first.
I don't want to scare you, but you might do well to try your local DV center. They will be able to refer you to a C who knows how to deal with situations like this.
(((((((cally))))))))) Take care of yourself, and your kids.
