You know when I confronted him about saying that to our daughter he defended it.
To me, that's a red flag about his character in general.
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He said the conversation started because my daughter sensed that our marriage was in trouble. She was worried because her bio father she is not close to. My husband has been the only daddy she has ever known. So she started by asking about the relationship.
He should've just given a generic reply without all the details, but you already know this.
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I am still trying to ask her about all that was said. But I think he was giving her the impression that I may be cheating on him.
I think it's important to try to find out everything your H and D have been saying to each other if you can. I'm sure it won't be easy though. If for nothing else, for the protection of your D, and your relationship with your D. He's not the BIO dad, is that correct? DO NOT let him destroy your relationship with her.
I'm sorry if I come off as too blunt Cally, but from what I can read in what you posted about him, I sense that there is way more than just a MB versus Sex Starved Marriage issue here.
I can't speak for the character of your H and the dynamics of your relationship with him, only you really know your H. But I just sense something really 'sinister', (for lack of a better word), in him in the way he relates to you. The roaming around AFF, the comments to you, the comments to your D....a very controlling, manipulating type way. If I'm way off, please say so and I'll shut up.
I doubt, (based on what you posted) that you would have any luck getting him to participate, but have you considered professional counseling to help put your relationship with him in perceptive?
