Cally, This blows my mind. I don't have half your problems and my W is divorcing me. But here goes. GEL has got it right it's a matter of respect. What your H does is out of bounds. you can read DB you can read Susan Page "How One of You Can Bring the Two of You Together" but in the final analysis this guy's got problems and needs counseling, lots of it. I'll say a prayer.
