That's certainly understandable. It's not wrong to feel that way. It's just that it isn't going to help change the situation.
Point well taken. How do you help the situation if the other spouse is not willing to meet your needs? Another hard question is how do you work on the marriage if the other souse won't open up and just talk to you. The ONLY time he will say anything is when he blows up, the word F*** gets thrown in his words a 100 times. He is full of blame. Then I get defensive.
I haven't read that book. I will have to check it out and see if I can find it.
The last question is a hard one. I guess maybe my actions, and this is how I feel, don't demonstrate respect for myself because I continue to stay in this relationship. He once said an important thing to me....I feel I can treat you anyway I want to because you will never leave. Because then you would be forced to get a job and have to do it on your own.
How do you help the situation if the other spouse is not willing to meet your needs? Another hard question is how do you work on the marriage if the other souse won't open up and just talk to you. The ONLY time he will say anything is when he blows up, the word F*** gets thrown in his words a 100 times. He is full of blame. Then I get defensive. 
