Why Would a Married Man Do This?

[DRJL]

Dave,
I think my SO could have the same idea regarding this with me:

Does your wife have any personal boundaries that pertain to you and your M? It seems that she goes along with whatever comes down the pike.

Great question! This is at the core of my issues with her. In my (sarc) rule book, I (sarc)"assign meaning" to it as "she must not give a sh!t about me if she doesn't care what I do".

He hasn't ever indicated that he does. But it hit home with me. For me, (maybe not your W), it isn't a lack of caring but a real sense of trust. He's never given me any reason to not trust him. So I do. Maybe I should let him know that this is the reason? (Or am I creating issues for myself that don't exist in my situation?) Anyway, apologies to cally, just wanted to let you know that there may be another reason for your W's reactions.