Quote: You just assigned "meaning" to actions and am making assumptions based upon your own values, feelings, etc.
Actually, I was thinking back to your original post on this incident. You didn't seem to feel too hot about yourself and your behavior but now you are rewriting history and reframing it as some Pinnacle of Differentiation.
So I DO understand what you are saying; I'm only saying that I do believe you are kidding yourself to reframe this as a good thing. Perhaps you and your wife have turned it INTO a good thing--if so, good for you.
Lemme ask you this:
Can you explain to me how taking your ring off was an example of how differentiated you are? Why are you trying to reframe this as something that was a positive thing to do?
Again, that is not me assigning my own values on you--this was the impression I got from reading your post about it.
One more question: That is great if you are your W are differentiated enough to handle such an event, but what about the women you are in contact with, at the bar? Is it fair to involve them in a Baggage Riddance experiment?
Sorry, Dave. I am just NOT buying how this is a positive experience. I think it was a mistake--one that you learned from--and now you can carry on with your wife and work on TRULY operating from a point of making a free choice to be together.
Here is one more question for you: Does your wife have any personal boundaries that pertain to you and your M? It seems that she goes along with whatever comes down the pike.
