Quote: Because he does know that he don't satisfy me sexually and I haven't wanted or even spoke about having sex with him in two weeks.
OUCH!! I'm not sure you will get far with someone by telling them they don't satisfy you sexually Cally. All that does is put him on the defensive and he will dig his heals in further.
The man seems to have a HUGE problem. He seems to be more interested, right now, in letting his pride and denail over his problems take importance over the damage he is doing to himself, you and the marriage.
The only thing I can tell you is that his angry response is probably due to extreme insecurity in his own ability to satisfy you or any other woman for that matter.
I still say you can't do your marriage or your husband any good until you are able to see it from his perspective. He is driven by fear, pride, shame and other negative emotions because I can't imagine that he thinks much of himself as a man.
Belittling him and his manhood is not going to encourage him to open up about what he is feeling. Don't internalize his anger and the things he says. It all comes from his own insecurities and you need to be smarter than him in this situation.
He is being a jerk because it is easier than admitting he might be failing in his manly duties...he has this idea in his head of what a man is suposed to feel and be able to do sexually and it just isn't happening for him.
I'm betting he is constantly confronting it himself in his head. You need to figure out a gentler way of drawing him out or all you are going to get is his stubborn pride and anger in response. Cathy
