In addition to what I said in this long post, I will also say this...
Of all the women I might meet in a bar (and trust me...it hasn't been many), how many of them would be able be as emotionally balanced and mature as my W when it comes to such tricky things...like dealing with wacky husband like myself. When I hear the crap that other people say about their relationships and spouses, I cringe over the thought of being married to someone like that. How many of these women share my sense of frugality like my W.
Yah, despite all the crap I give her for lacking passion, I have to say that I like the calm, non threatening, generally happy, stabile, grounded personality too - a trait that not many women (I've met) have. While I might fantasize about having a relationship with some nutty, unpredictable woman, I would never really want that. Have I shared this thought with my W? Yes. Did it threaten her? Nope. Because she is very happy with herself. Heck, she told me that she's attracted to nerdy Ward Cleaver types of guys but that she would be bored to tears. She loves the excitement I bring.
We talk about stuff like this now. We've both gotten more certain about "who" we each are. It's made the give-and-take more clear cut. This is what Schnarch talks about a lot. It makes me think twice now before giving her crap for not being just like me or reading my mind.
Dave (who maybe nuts but sometimes I think that maybe I only "think" I'm nuts more than I actually am).
Anywhere is walking distance if you have the time
-Steven Wright
