SD, I don't think anyone is saying they have a problem with their spouse masturbating. I know I'm not. I know I'm not.
The issue being talked about here is when a spouse prefers themselves or porno to making love to their spouse. There needs to be a happy middle ground for there to be a healthy, functioning relationship.
I agree with you, if a spouse is put off by the idea that their spouse masturbates then you will have problems...let's face it, it is human nature and most of us do it. It's a personal thing and no one has the right to dictate the behavior. When the behavior gets in the way of an intimate relationship with your partner you have just as bad a problem.
I never had a problem with my ex masturbating. It's when he started prefering masturbation over sex that I developed a problem. I didn't marry the man so that could masturbate out of sexual frustration while listening to him whistling in the shower. BIG PROBLEM in my opinion. I have a feeling this is the same thing Cally is feeing in her marriage. Cathy
