Tim..thanks for the response. You said......I think you probably realize that a married man who is repeatedly checking out dating sites and researching women in his area is not "just curious".

I would agree. If he was just wanting to see naked women why not look at porn. That wouldn't hurt as much. But to be looking at dating sites with naked women right from our area. And I don't have much trust in my husband.

I can honestly say if he cheated I would never forgive him. It would be the end to our marriage. I could never forgive a man that couldn't even satisfy his wife and acted for years like he could care less about sex, and then get itt from another woman. Honestly with the way things have been the last couple of years I don't know how he would even have the courage to start a new sexual relationship. If he has erection problems with me and I am his wife someone he is comfortable with. And he avoids me when this problem ever rises. How could he ever muster up enough courage and worry it would happen with someone he has never been with?

But still to see him looking just distanced my heart even more. I already have one foot out the door. I had an offer of help if I wanted to seperate from my husband, I am seriously considering taking that offer.