I have posted my story here about my husband and I. I have read a lot of the advice and trying to be positive and work on this. But it gets so hard. When I first posted I was ready to call it quits. But since I have mustered up some more determination to try and make it work again.

One thing I have gotten advice on is to not make him feel ashamed about his masturbation. Husband has a low drive. So this is something that REALLY bothers me. It was said I may push him away more if I keep bringing up MB or putting stipulations on him to stop.
Well, I know that this week he has MB twice already. Which normally I would say something but I haven't. I have acted like I don't know and don't care. BUT also I went to a meeting the other night. I was checking the history on my computer today because I was trying to find this one site my daughter and I were on for homework that was a great help to us. What I seen was that while I was out at that meeting my husband was checking out dating sites. One of them was a very sexual dating site and had naked pictures of women that were posted. To make matters worse the pictures of these women were ranging from 20-25. My husband is soon to be 40. I am 33. The women were also all within 15-30 minutes from our home. So he was seraching our area. I also seen just last while I was home and he got on to print a picture for homework for our daughter that he was on another dating site. He didn't check it out extensively like the other night. But he was on it!
This is coming from a man that has a low sex drive. Who doesn't satisfy his wife sexually. One who will turn to his hand when he knows he doesn't do it for me as far as fullfilling.
Why would a married man who doesn't desire sex be checking out that kind of site??
Thanks for reading. I really needed to vent. I can almost guess that if I confront him he will say I was just looking out of curiousity. Like it's no big deal and don't mean anything.
Maybe there is no hope. This really hurt to see this on my computer.