One of these days I want to post at more length about Narcissistic Personality Disorder, but that's for another day, when I have the time and I have organised my thoughts better.
For anyone interested in the subject, here's a link to the work and writings of Sam Vaknin.
One of the things I have read is that someone with NPD is not able to change and never really does so. Their whole being is invested in the adoption of the dynamic. All the sites I have read have advised NOT to stay involved, to not have contact etc. Well, I have a child here, so no contact is not really an option. But I think I am detaching more.
So anyway, this morning D and I went to buy her a new bike, and I got sucked into buying a very snazzy mountain bike, that is far better equipped than even mine (and it is my only means of transport and child carrying!) is far smarter and cost rather more than I intended spending! But D loves it, she even kissed it!
H rang to talk to her and to hear all about her new bike. Then he talked to me. He asked what it cost, and then said, well, I can't pay my half this month, but I will give it to you probably next month. Hey guys, I didn't ask for a thing, let's see if the money materializes!
Then he inquired what I was doing tomorrow, and I mentioned doing stuff with friends, and he said, have a nice time.
I was pleasant throughout, but I didn't enquire about him or what he was up to at all.
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
