Thanks all for posting here. It is gratifying to know I am not the only one grappling with dicipline type problems with my D. It is tempting to think one is an inadequate parent at times...

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H has rung me a few times in the past couple of days. His telelphone is not working and he keeps asking me to try ringing him to see if the phone works for incoming calls. It doesn't always. This evening he called, asked to speak to D straight away and then she handed the phone to me. H asked me to call him back. I was just in the process of saying goodbye to someone at the door and said I would ring back in five minutes. H sounded annoyed, and said, can't you just ring me back straight away! (In that commanding tone!) I just said, I will in a bit. I didn't get through. He rang back, and asked if I had tried. Told him I had.

Then he said, just want to warn you about weekend after next, when D is due to come up - I may be going away, so can't have her.

I note that I asked if it was OK to have D here the two weekends that my sis is coming to visit, I did not just inform him. It doesn't occur to H to ask me if it is OK for D not to come up, he informs me.

This is part of the entitlement aspect of H, which he accuses me of all the time. But then I am learning how people with NPD project.

I am also wondering why he keeps ringing me to test his phone. Does he know no one else with a phone apart from his 'ex-wife'?

I have had a busy few days recently and some late nights, and I am tired today. Will be turning in early to catch up on the beauty sleep!

Livnlearn

"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates