LnL, I also agree that you shouldn't invite your H, especially because it seems as if you have made up your mind to move on without him.

Letting go of that hope of reconciliation is hard, isn't it? I thought I had it beat, but I found out this weekend that I have a long way to go.

Good luck with the birthday plans!

Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed.
D35,S/D twins28,D22
EA4/04 End? Who knows?
"Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim