I understand being jerked around. This is something my H has done for years. He will call me names, being an absolute jerk and then try to be all sweet and nice and act like he never did those horrible things. We are not dealing with normal people.
In one day, my H left three messages. One swearing at me, calling me names. The next one threatening to show up at my parents house if I didn't give him what I want. And the third "Hey its me...." chatting like he had never left the other two. That is not normal behavior.
Have you read "Why does he do that?" by Lundy Bancroft? It is about emotional abuse. I think you might find it interesting.
