There is no doubt that my H is also going through some kind of Mid-life Crisis, but I am also looking at some of the character traits that H has displayed for as long as I have known him, and adding it all up.
I have always been aware of these traits - how could I not be - but I have discovered they are a group of behaviours that seem to fit the diagnosis of a Narcissist type of disorder. When I first came across the Passive Aggressive stuff, lots of it rang bells, but not all of it, so I was confused.
My sis has always referred to H as 'semi-detached' and not quite human in his level of detachment. I always thought this an exaggeration.
I guess even narcissists have mid-life crises?
I do worry about pigeonholing someone, but the alternative is banging your head on a brick wall and wondering why you are getting nowhere...
Plus, I do need to do the work to find out why I wound up with someone so incapable of so many things others take for granted. What did I find attractive about H? Why were the red flags not enough to put me off?
Stuff like that.
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
