With respect, I think you are missing the point a little. I HAVE been trying to save my M. But this is something else.
My strong feeling is that it is NOT appropriate for our nine-year-old D to be sleeping in a bed with her father and his OW.
Forget at this moment trying to get him back, I think he is much too far gone right now. He is a law unto himself.
*I* wouldn't want him back like this, no way.
Here is a draft of a letter that I just wrote. I will not send it. There is no point sending stuff unless it has an effect, but I am just so disgusted.
Maybe I am assuming too much, perhaps OW2 will be sleeping out in the cold under the stars, or somewhere else. But I do doubt it, frankly.
Quote: Dear H
I am not interested in your relationship with OW2 but as D's mother I do take a close interest in what I consider totally inapproiate behaviour, which includes her having to share a bed with her father and a women he is sexually invovled with, but who isn't her mother. It is every mother's duty to protect her offspring from inappropriate behaviour, and that includes if it comes from their father. It is your duty to make sure that D has an apppropriate place to sleep. Hosting OW2 is NOT your first priority.
I don't understand how you are prepared to sink so low in your desperate search for someone or something to fill the hole in your life. Does OW2 herself not have any self respect? Is she desperate too? Could you imagine having to have slept in your father's bed with his lover when you were nine? Don't you get it at all?
For the love of D, do the right thing.
This is really frying my brain.
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
