LnL,

Good for you for standing up for yourself at the bank, and I agree with the others that H's "bad" reaction is probably a response to you not letting him walk all over you.


Aren't you glad that if H does lose that card that it will be his problem and not yours?

I have the same problem with the mail. H's mail comes here, but I have not made an issue out of it as him changing the address will also cause mail that is listed "H and Pam" to be forwarded to him as well.

I have taken steps of changing some things to my name only, little by little. I did it for the cell phone I use and I even changed the account name on my acct at the drycleaners, to Pam instead of H.

Little things like that are baby steps but they sure do feel empowering.

At your recommendation I also started reading the Dr Laura book about 10 stupid things women do, what an eye opener. I may even post to my thread about that instead of hijacking yours.

I would not have picked this route for us, but I do feel like I am growing and learning more about myself as a result.

peace, love and tie dye (as a friend of mine says)

Pam