Hi LNL. No advice. I can relate though. I went out with a friend on Friday. Her idea of support was telling me not to tell people that H cheated on me because it makes me look bad. She also implied that she could not understand why I was getting divorced. He only cheated twice and talked to the second OW on the phone. Needless to say, I was furious. His cheating and lying, makes ME look bad?
She also informed me that she thinks most men cheat (she is not and has never been married) and that if you want to be married you have to put up with it. I felt like I was having dinner with the female version of H.
That is the last time I will go out with her. I need positive, supportive people in my life. I spent years with H insulting me and making me feel stupid. I don't need another person like that when I am finally getting out of that environment.
Anyway, I can relate. I was not expecting to have to divorce a friend as well.
