There is the raw fear of feeling I have been thrown to the dogs.
There's the confusuion of having the person who was supposed to be the protector and defender of this little family be the one who has menace in his voice when he talks about 'not wanting us to have to go to the lawyers again'...
When your (supposedly) closest ally turns into what looks like your enemy it sets your world akilter.
A friend of mine, many many years ago had a ba****d of a husband, who cheated on her in every way. One famous time he apparently said to her in some connection, "I didn't say 'I swear', I said 'I square'"!
I told this story to my H and we used to laugh about it.
But this is essentially what H is saying now. He's an "I square" man.
Marriage vows? I only said "I square"!
OW1 only a good friend? I square!
Was working, trying to make the marriage work... I square!
Even now, everything he does is to 'support you, I square!'
He stupidly and needlessly lent a substantial amount of money to someone years ago, and never saw a penny of it in return. He doesn't have the b***s to chase it up, as the guy is not the most stable (also split from his wife and didn't pay any money to her, promptly had another partner and baby, you get the picture) and works as an armed security guard.
I guess going after his 'ex-wife' is easier, when he is feeling the squeeze.
Yuck.
Livnlearn.
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
