I too have a H who now says after all these years that this is HIS money since he's the only one who brings any in. This after I worked full time like a dog and had 2 babies while he attended medical school. OUR plan was always that when he finished residency, I would quit my job and be a SAHM. I was so reluctant to quit my job back then because I was so afraid he would say it's HIS money since I don't work. He ASSURED me over and over again that THAT would never happen. Well, now he claims he's changed his mind about me getting a job. WTF? I reminded him of the agony I went through when I actually went through with quitting my job and what he said about it then. All he could say is, I changed my mind. Whatever.
So I say to him, any job I could get now would bring in not very much money and you're saying that is what you want? Then he'll say, that's not enough money! Get a better job! So I'm pretty sure it's not just me getting a job thing that he's leaving over, but it is a huge issue. Money has NEVER been an issue in our marriage. I always paid the bills and he always had peace of mind that it was taken care of. Well not anymore! He pays the bills now and has his check direct deposited into his OWN acct and then transfers that amount of money to our joint acct to pay bills. Stupidest thing I've ever heard.
Anyway, just wanted you to know that your H is not the only butthead when it comes to getting a job.
