Cultivating Self Love

[Livnlearn]

H rang just now to say he had just got in touch with the landlords, and they didn't know whether they were going up for the weekend or just for the day, tomorrow. H asked if I had plans, I said, yes, I have plans. He said they would let him know late this evening.

Folks, I feel REALLY tempted to draw a line in the sand very soon. I feel like packing up a couple of bags of H's stuff (there is still loads of his stuff here, he only took away stuff he wanted and needed, left the rest for me to deal with, then talks about the 'sh*t' here) to send up with D every time she goes up in the landlord's car. That way he would not have an excuse about not being able to take it. I have made a pile of his post, the stuff he doesn't bother to even look at much when he comes here.

BUT, I know many have said that quite often the WAS is close to thinking about coming back, but the LBS is impatient and does something that sets the whole thing back to square one and the WAS runs back into the tunnel.

See, H is pressuring me to pay more towards the mortgage, but hasn't lifted a finger around here for the last two years. He tells me I have the use of a great place (true) but I am the one working on it to improve it and make it nice to live in. His sh*t is still here. Why should it be?

I wish I knew what was on his mind. But I am becoming clearer what is on mine!

He just like he feels he shouldn't have to pay Livnlearn anything now that we are no longer married, why should I have to deal with his cr*p and his ever changing plans re: D and on and on?

But I am sitting on my hands, for now.

Livnlearn