I cannot claim any special wisdom on marriages or dbing, but I have to confess that when I came back to the board last week and read your thread the following quote of yours from today is exactly what I thought to myself.
Quote: This man doesn't look at ALL like he is moving closer to me. He just needs a place to stay in town, a comfy berth once in a while. Someone to listen to when HE needs it.
Boy am I angry.
In my heart I was rather bummed out as I was thinking that he is really still taking advantage of LnL (although whether he is doing it consciously or unconsciously is a whole different story).
These are all the classic signs of a man who is still deeply in the midst of an MLC. Any progress that you might think you see may only be a coincidence, not him actually moving closer. It stinks, doesn't it?
Does he really expect you to run out and buy that bottle of liquor just to make his stays there more pleasant? The me-me-me of these guys is a little overwhelming.
My purpose is not to rain on your parade, I don't want to see you give up hope, but I don't want to see you entertaining false hope and looking for positive "signs" when it looks like the only person your H truly cares about right now is himself.
My days also fluctuate between being ready to give up on H and then recognizing that he really is just a sad, self involved pathetic specimen of a man right now.
Maybe we need to take a deep breath and just realize that we are in this for the long term although the short term looks a bit crappy right now.
