Boy that H of yours sure has gotten chatty lately hasn't he? It must be your wonderful DB skills!
He seems to be coming out of his shell a bit to share his work with you, which I do see as a great positive. You need to remember to continue to GAL and stay detached from any of his drama. You've done a superb job! Keep it up because it seems to be working!
My suggestion about this weekend and the possibility of D showing up at home early. Just let your H know that you have plans on that day and that you will not be home until ?? time (give him a specific time), and that you won't be home to get D until then. Just be vague about what you're doing, but also make it clear that it is not a negotiable outing that you can change for him. If you put it across very conversationally, that might help so he doesn't think you are trying to control his life (that seems to be something he doesn't like). Only that you have your own life and things to do.
Anyway, I'm very impressed with your handling of the sitch you find yourself in. Keep it up!
JL
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