Quote: Her husband was so good to her, and whenver I would see them together it would always make me think how I doubted that my H would ever be there for me if I ever got sick. He was always way too self absorbed, even before he got into MLC.
Dear Pam
This really stuck out to me. IT is EXACTLY how I felt about my H, before the bomb, the MLC and all that.
I remember being on a (working) cycling holiday with D about a year before the bomb. At the end of the week all the families were getting ready to leave, putting their bikes on the car racks, loading the cars, the kids running around etc etc. Just normal, family stuff, with two people working together along with their children - families. And the husbands doing manly, caring, physical things. (Hey, I'm a feminist, and proud to say so, but even I do know there are differences between the sexes!)
And I envied them. I knew we would never be like that. Working as a team. Instead of pulling apart, being in competition. H refusing to come to the seaside with D and I for TWO DAYS because D is a little girl who likes playing on the beach... H said he didn't like beaches! Couldn't put himself out enough for his darling D for two whole days!
It's all very well our standing for our marriages, but where are our husbands standing for their marriages? How long is too long to wait?
Livnlearn
PS I am sorry to hear about your friend. I have a friend in the DC / Virginia area, and she has lost many many women friends and acquaintances to cancer these past few years, all women in their late thirties and early forties. Do you perhance live in this area? It sounds very alarming.
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
