I am trying to get my boy's taxes done, can't do the ones for H and me w/o K'1's for his corporations.
H found out yesterday that the position he was to be taking with his previous employer is not going to be what he thought/had been told.
They love him there like a son, but they see his problems and are only going to give him a very short leash.
His new job will be an adequate salary but nothing close to what he was expecting and not really a help at paying off his massive credit card debt.
I am thinking about what you are saying (I did read your thread the other day, Michelle) and wondering if standing for my marriage could mean somehow divorcing myself from his madness.
Our financial situation is extremely complex.
But to bring things into perspective, the mother of one of S12's football team mates died this week from breast cancer. She was only 44.
She had a 2nd husband who adored her, and a blended family of his, hers, adopted and foster kids.
Her husband was so good to her, and whenver I would see them together it would always make me think how I doubted that my H would ever be there for me if I ever got sick. He was always way too self absorbed, even before he got into MLC.
Many days I wish that I knew what my future was supposed to look like. I could handle anything if I just knew what it was I was supposed to handle.
Dear Pamilla Receve a big hug bc your friend death...!! by your thread and other one i can see how that deaths makes us analyze and reflexionate about our lives...!...
Quote: Many days I wish that I knew what my future was supposed to look like. I could handle anything if I just knew what it was I was supposed to handle.
Dont you feel knowing everything will put life some kind of bore...? Surprises... life will give us many many good surprises... goals... sadness but growth...!! Andrea
Quote: Her husband was so good to her, and whenver I would see them together it would always make me think how I doubted that my H would ever be there for me if I ever got sick. He was always way too self absorbed, even before he got into MLC.
Dear Pam
This really stuck out to me. IT is EXACTLY how I felt about my H, before the bomb, the MLC and all that.
I remember being on a (working) cycling holiday with D about a year before the bomb. At the end of the week all the families were getting ready to leave, putting their bikes on the car racks, loading the cars, the kids running around etc etc. Just normal, family stuff, with two people working together along with their children - families. And the husbands doing manly, caring, physical things. (Hey, I'm a feminist, and proud to say so, but even I do know there are differences between the sexes!)
And I envied them. I knew we would never be like that. Working as a team. Instead of pulling apart, being in competition. H refusing to come to the seaside with D and I for TWO DAYS because D is a little girl who likes playing on the beach... H said he didn't like beaches! Couldn't put himself out enough for his darling D for two whole days!
It's all very well our standing for our marriages, but where are our husbands standing for their marriages? How long is too long to wait?
Livnlearn
PS I am sorry to hear about your friend. I have a friend in the DC / Virginia area, and she has lost many many women friends and acquaintances to cancer these past few years, all women in their late thirties and early forties. Do you perhance live in this area? It sounds very alarming.
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
