Well I am up and about early this morning, reading and getting ready for our trip to Wisconsin.

I was going over some old stuff that I had copied from the board at various times (like the 6 stages of MLC) as well as other materials.

I came across an article, I am not sure where I received it, but I would highly recommend it. Maybe it can be found online, maybe you would need to go to a library.

It is from
Marriage & Family: A Christian Journal
Volume 1, Issue 4 1998 pages 355-368
"Extramarital Affairs: Therapeutic Understanding and Clinical Interventions"
by Douglas Rosenau

It is meant for a therapist, but I found it to be very helpful and is organized around 5 phases of an affair:
inception
prediscovery
discovery
recovery
resolution

There is so much meat there that for me to try and even summarize would be doing it a disservice.

I am looking forward to getting away, the kids are less than excited owing to the fact that they haven't really seen these friends in many years. They have 3 daughters and a son, I have two sons. Hopefully it will all be ok, even though they are all older now.

No word yesterday from H, even though he said he would call from London. I am trying not to jump to conclusions and assume he is w/ OW, even if he is there ain't much I can do about it.

my best to all,
Pam