I'm doing an online bible study with Beth Moore, it goes along with her book Believing God. And one of the assignments is to read Romans 4 twenty times in the next few weeks.!!
It is a tough road either way, they are so lost and confused. Right around Xmas time I was talking of D with my H and he came right and said go ahead, it's not going to make things any easier. And admitted that he didn't know what he wanted and something he said to me made me realize that ow isn't what he wants either. We've had the D talk many times, but nothing ever happens, neither of us pursue it.
This is the website I was referring to: RESTORE Ministries
If you have time check it out. God can work miracles, he can changes your cicumstances in the "twinkling of eye"
And what your friends said about your H being "spiritually toxic" there are days when I'm around my H and I begin to feel oppressed, tired, like he's draining me and we're just in the room together. So I understand what they are talking about and it's very real.