Andrea,

Thank you for reminding me that there is progress to be seen. Just six days ago I had about had it with H.

I have seen this pattern before though, where he comes close, peeks in, then runs back to the cave. Probably before I have made the logical mistake of getting too excited and scaring him away or too quickly falling into old behavior patterns.

As for the OW phone calls, I cannot even begin to speculate.

I am hoping that she is not flying to Europe from Brazil to meet him there. She did that once before, although I did not find out about it until many months later. For those of you who have followed my story from way back when, it was back in September when I made cookies for H to take on his trip to Europe. I dropped them off to him, gave him a kiss and a breezy ILY and took off in a matter of about 5 minutes.

I bet those cookies really stuck in his throat, he probably threw them away. LOL

When I did find out later that OW had gone with him, I was extremely ticked off, for many reasons not the least of which it was a several thousand $ plane ticket.

He later told me that it was $ well spent, that being with her day and night for three weeks had opened his eyes to the fact that he did not want to spend the rest of his life with her. Yet six months later he is still "with" her, as with someone as you can be when the live thousands of miles away.

I guess my criteria for him not being "with" her is when he stops paying her expenses. The lease on their Brazilian house is due in May. One can only hope...

Pam