Well lo and behold after several weeks of going back and forth with H about Easter weekend plans it seems like I have a semblance of what Easter might look like.

several weeks ago, in the spirit of asking H for what I wanted, I had asked him if I could have the boys on Easter, so that I could take them to church with me. The boys and I attend faithfully every week and H has stopped going since I kicked his a** out, as he so lovingly puts it.

His response to this request was, "but you had them on Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years." Never mind that he was out of the country on Thanksgiving and we were all together on Christmas and New Years, he has conveniently re-invented history for his benefit.

I just let all that go, didn't really choose to "get into it" with him. About a week after that I told him, "fine you can have the boys for the weekend if that is what you want." His response then, "well, I do not know if I will be around, I will just be getting back from California. Then I leave for Europe on the 29th..." blah blah blah

So last night he calls me up, says that he will be here at noon today, to take the boys out for a few hours, but not to keep them overnight, so that they can go to church on Easter.

He also says that he might go to church with us. I am totally not sure what to make of that.

If he does show up on Easter then I suppose I should invite him to have Easter dinner with us. It feels sort of contrived, but I guest I can do the old act as if.

He also told me that he got his hair cut yesterday by a hairdresser in Chicago that we both used to go to. I stopped going to her and was just getting my hair cut locally now, as going to Chicago for a haircut had become an expense I could not afford. H hadn't been there in a long time either, I think that he was afraid to face her as she was sort of part of the old life that he was busy trying to avoid.

H said that he told her yesterday that I needed one of her haircuts (she gives an awesome awesome haircut but is very expensive). When I told H that I couldn't afford it, he said "don't be so sure."

Going back to her to get his haircut seems like a baby step for him out of the tunnel, but I do not know.

Big big, surprise. May be trouble in paradise. I got about 5 or 6 hang up phone calls from OW last night. I have not had any of those in months and months.

Hmmm,

Pam