I know JUST what you are saying. No more peacekeeping, but more looking to see how one's actions are in OUR interests.
Isn't it hilarious when they come up with the "Don't you trust me?" kind of stuff?
I think your H's little 'game' of withholding the money he needed to give you is very telling. It is a measure of just how far up his you-know-what his head is. Either that, or he is just plain unworthy of you, if that twisted cruelty is a basic character trait.
I think we all need to examine what our marriages were really like, much before the crisis started, to see if they were truly acceptable. If not, we need to see how much possibility there is that the problems there were really fixable.
Otherwise we are wasting our time barking up the wrong tree.
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
