I'm sick about all this. When I read the things you write both here and on my thread, I can't imagine why he's doing this. But as NY says, we can't think or know what's going on in the head of the WAS or "affair-having-partner" or whatever. If you truly want to save your marriage, you have to keep doing the 180 thing and "acting-as-if".
In my case, it was also very hard to do this when I knew damn well she was going out to see the OP while D12 and I stayed at home. When I read in the book (and when several posters wrote me) that DBing is really for you, it is to make a change in you and if your spouse catches on and comes to their senses, that's gravy, I didn't buy it 100%. However, it's the TRUTH. A month or so ago, I still wanted my W to come back no matter what. Now, she comes over to the house for something and I don't have the same intense feelings for her that I used to. She came over Tuesday night to sign the tax refund checks and I couldn't wait for her to get going so I could get to the gym. I was like..."Is there anything else, is there anything else..." Don't get me wrong, there's something still there but it is getting buried deeper every day.
Again, if you truly love him and want him to stay, your only shot is to keep with the 180's, the nice-nice, letting him see that you are not fazed by his antics and that you are willing to MOVE ON if necessary. I'm sure you will make the decision that is best for you, I've got faith in you!!! Go look in the mirror right now and tell yourself that you are the best. You can handle this no matter what happens. I mean it, go do it right now then come back and read the rest of this and tell me how you feel.
KEEP IT UP...D.
LAD 6-2 (1st Place, I might add...)
P.S. Sorry I haven't posted to you in a while, I'll get better...LATE
