I feel the pain in this post, and know that I have those very same feelings. My H was doing the same thing for a while, taking money out with no regards for bills, going out everynight, leaving me to do all the grunt work. I felt and still feel completely unappreciated and unloved. My H is SOOOO concerned if the damn cellphone bill gets paid, doesnt care that I dont have the money to pay the mortgage.
I do things for H because I love him as well, but I also have to stop catering to him. I was telling someone the other day that we have been together since we were 17, so sometimes I forget that H has grown up into a man and is not that 17 yr old, that I wrote his bills out for, did everything, called and made dr appts. He is more than capable of making airline reservations to go visit OW, rent a car to drive her ass around in, but doing it on our DIME. Let some of the things slide at home so you dont feel so burdened. He will take notice that the cleaning is not up to par, maybe he will even pitch in. I stopped my cleaning regiment (I clean just not as often I was obsessive) because I decided that I wanted to live life, not sit around and clean. There have to be some things that would be 180's for you that H would say hmmmm what is going on here?
