The threads that I have read where there was contact with the ow have not gotten good results. It just made the WAS angry and did not get the results they expected. It pushed them farther away.
I have tried to call the ow and my H found out and it made him very angry.
Think about this. Someone has suggested making the ow a nonentity (not a person you need to concern yourself about) but to continue working on you the only person you can change. You can't change your H or the ow. Focus on you.
