I hear ya loud and clear Blondeqt! Last night we had an R talk that wasn't so good. H says he IS leaving for sure and he's already decided how it will end. (with a D) Throughout our talk periodically he would say, "if" we do this... (meaning D) H wants to live in a room above the 2nd garage and I still think he's nuts. That would be just too hard for me to have him so near and I just don't think the kids would get it. We go to the MC tomorrow at 9am. He's supposed to tell us then how we break all this to the kids.
One other interesting tidbit...need some guidance. During our talk, I told H that it is becoming increasingly harder not to pick up the phone to call OW. I have never done it and don't even know if I have the guts to. Well, H asked what I expected to gain from talking to her? I told H that it would just make me feel better somehow. (BTW, OW is still married and living with her spouse and kid or kid(s) ) I told H that if I never did talk to OW and tell her how I feel she interfered, I will never feel like I did all I could do to say I tried to save our marriage. After a few minutes, H said, "if you want to call her and that will make you feel like you've done all you can, then call her." H said I can't guarantee that she'll take your call, but I'm not going to be angry if you call. THEN, H says, you need to know though, no matter if you call her or not, the end result won't change. (the D) So I'm torn. Don't know whether to call and just say please back off for a bit to see if we can save this, or just call her a homewrecker and hang up, or even call at all. Any thoughts?
