Hello Everyone and Happy Friday! I had a pretty good night last night. H of course went to the bar...I asked my mom to watch D1 and she said yes. So...I fixed my hair put on a geen shirt and went down by the beach. H came homw after I was gone and called wondering where I was because he could smell my perfume. Well as the night went on he came down to where I was and after a little while we went home. We had an alright time....I kept trying to act as if he was just my friend....Yikes! Sometimes it was hard. Guess What...This was not on purpose at all. When I left from the beach I said the words ILY....and when I realized it came out I wanted to say ...Oops I didnt mean it. I just pretend like it was nothing....Gosh...why wasnt I thinking. Did I screw up?
I an having the hardest night ever. H came home...I know this because his work truck is here and his car is gone. This is the first time ever that he has never called me. I guess that it is really over in his eyes. I hope that he isnt with the OW but what can I do. I am in a deep depresion right now. Maybe he went to get a tattoo...he has been wanting to do that. I called him twice the first time i got his voice message and the he had turned his phone off.....doesnt look good! I am so sad and nobody to chat with...please help!
Hey Blonde, I here ya loud and clear. I'm in the same boat as you tonight. My wife will be staying over at the OM house tonight. Don't worry about it as there is nothing we can do. They lead their own lives and we can't stop them. I'm just waiting for my BIL to come over and play some xbox
Think happy thoughts, it can always be worse is what I tell myself.
I'm sorry you're having a bad night. I was too as today is my W's Birthday and I'm sure she's out with the OP. However, I picked up D12 at the birthday party she was at and one of her friends came over to spend the night. The three of us are watching Napoleon Dynamite for the umpteenth time. The two of them together are a crack up so basically I'm being thouroughly entertained.
Thanks for your advise. H came home at about midnight drunker that I have ever seen him...he didnt even remember driving home....that is scary. H got sick and passed out in the bathroom....boy that sound like fun huh! I know in my heart that he was with the OW last night and then went out for drinks with his friends. If you can call them friends for letting him drive in that condition. I am still young but I am so past that stage. H is still sleeping today and keeps telling me that he doesnt feel well....so to F*^$% bad....I am not feeling sorry for him....but I did get him something to eat. (stupid of me I know) he did wisper to me that he wants a D still....What am I suppose to do....he has never been gone from 130p to 12mid without calling...I was so worried! I feel that I have lost some respect in him....he stinks of cigarettes and booze....yuck! I am still so sad but I got up dolled myself up and am going to do my own thing today. Please help me to think of what I should do next....Please also keep me in your thought and prayers...
Well everyone....Its Monday morning and the weekend is over...believe it or not I am kind of happy...work keeps my mind from wandering. I really feel like I need support from you all today. Friday night was awful for me...Saturday H slept off his alcohol from the night before and I was so disgusted that I went to my cousins house for the night. Sunday morning he called me and told me that he thought that I was going to come home on Saturday night (my new joke is guess how I get my H to stay home on a Saturday night.......I have to leave) I came home Sunday morning and we had a really nice day....we got out and about with our daughter. My mom watched D1 last night and I just wanted to enjoy H company. The part that I really need your help on is....I want my H to admit that he was with the OW....if I know that I am ready for our M to be over. I dont think that I can do the DBing thing anymore. Its not fair to me that he goes and f*&%s that whore and comes home to loving wife that is happy. I dont want to get a disease from my H....I am trying to be the wonderful wife that I am suppose to be...but at the same time I am feeling that its not right to let him do whatever or whomever he wants and then have Mrs Wonderful at home with a smile on her face....then he feels everything is okay to do whatever he wants. DOES this sound crazy....I am at my last string....Please everybody help.....I dont want to end us but I dont know what to do! Hellllllllppppppp!
I know how hard it is to keep going. I screwed up this weekend. I think the main thing you have to remember that is if you give an ultimatum you have to be ready to accept his decision if he decides to end it. He might not be ready to decide yet which of course could cause him to choose differently then what you might want.
It's hard I know, I'm about ready to give an ultimatum as well, but am trying to hold off a little longer. I kind of feel that my wife is holding off deciding about what she wants to do possibly in hopes of me doing the dirty work for her and ending it that way. Then I'll look like the one who wanted it. I know that you shouldn't assume though and give them their space until the proper time comes. When that time is sometimes seems like the million dollar question.
Maybe he knows deep down that he's the bad guy in this deal but wants you to get pissed enough that you file on him. That way you get to be the bad guy in his mind. To be honest, none of us can truly know what our spouse is thinking. You just have to do what you are willing to do. Like the others say, if you lay down an ultimatum, you have to be 100% prepared to stand by it. If you back off of it, you lose all credibility (remember the old story of the boy who cried wolf?)
You are right, it is a beautiful day here, I had to drive into West LA today. If I don't get on the road back to the I.E. by 3:00, I'll never make my 5:45 appointment with the MFT. QT, go eat lunch outside today, enjoy the weather and think about how good a person YOU are.
Well as the night went on he came down to where I was and after a little while we went home. We had an alright time....I kept trying to act as if he was just my friend....Yikes! Sometimes it was hard. Guess What...This was not on purpose at all. When I left from the beach I said the words ILY....and when I realized it came out I wanted to say ...Oops I didnt mean it. I just pretend like it was nothing....Gosh...why wasnt I thinking. Did I screw up? 
