I'm going to throw this out there to see what others think. From reading your thread, both of you seem to be a little stuck. Neither one wanting to upset the apple cart so to speak.
Here is my suggestion but only if you are agreeable. Let the cuddling turn into something more. I have repeatedly seen where the physical bond of ML has provided the WAS a sense of calm. Your H is feeling extreme guilt over his A. He feels unworthy, he still cares, obvious, because of the cuddling, but he seems extremely hesitant to take the next step. How many guys have you known that if you were cuddling wouldn't try for something more? There may be a few but not many.
I only suggest this if YOU can handle it. Don't do it if you feel you may be hurt emotionally. My suggestion is to think of the act as an experiment. At least at this point in your R. Let it happen and monitor the results. Work into it slowly, don't go for it at the first opportunity. The next time he cuddles, maybe take his hand and place it on your breast. If he wants more, stop him and say you like him touching you, but you just aren't ready for more. See how he reacts. Let him yearn for you. Very powerful mojo.
Of course you need to be able to do this while being detached. Easy to say, right?
I'm interested in what other may think. NY, any concerns? This is just a thought, go ahead and tell me if you think I'm nuts.
