No, no, no, no, no. No. It's not a slap in the face. Stop feeling "stupid" over everything, and as everyone on this site will tell you, the "I love you but I'm not in love with you" speech (or "ILYBINILWY" for short) is something we've ALL heard (or a variation of it, such as, "I don't love you like a spouse should" ) and apparently it's mandatory speak from a WAS. PAY NO ATTENTION TO IT!!! Anytime they say anything like that, pay no attention to it. It's representative of what they FEEL right now, but feelings change, m' dear. He loved you once and changed his mind... excuse me, but he can change his mind back again.
Every couple that has ever reconciliated has at one time had one partner declare that it would never be and that 'they loved them but were not in love with them'.
